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Who Am I?!

27 May

This month I have to renew my New Jersey Driver’s License. 4 years ago, for the first time in my life (I’m 61) I needed to show 6 points of identification to prove my identity (which includes Birth Certificate, Social Security card, Voter Registration card, Utility Bills, Tax bills and my old Drivers License) and then have my picture taken so there would be no mistake that from that point on I was who I said I was. This was all done in 2011 as part of all of the states compliance with Homeland Security rules and regulations.

Here is the copy as it appears on the Homeland Security News Wire explaining just how sophisticated the new NJ driver’s licenses are.

In compliance with Secure ID, the federal law that mandates that states create more stringent identification cards, New Jersey has unveiled a sophisticated new driver’s license; according to New Jersey officials, the new Enhanced Digital Driver’s License puts New Jersey among the ten states with the most secure identity cards; to prevent counterfeiting, security features include an embedded pattern on the license, one and two dimensional bar codes, and “purposeful errors” like misspellings; to implement these new licenses, the state’s MVCs have had to undergo a $19 million upgrade to install new computer systems, hardware, and software.

Notice how NJ had to spend 19 million dollars to upgrade their software etc. But the new licenses had photos and embeds and bar codes to make them super secure and fraud preventive. So whenever I go to purchase my Claritin-D  all the pharmacist has to do is look at my face and compare it to the face on my license, then scan the back of my license which inputs everything there is to know about me into their pharmacy computers where then even the Federal government will be notified and able to track my pseudoephedrine purchases to make sure I’m just into allergies and not into crystal meth!

Anyway, my license is now expiring and I have to have it renewed…in person…at the NJ Motor vehicles office…And I have to bring my 6 points of ID with me, just like I did in 2012…to prove who I am!…Again!

Why can’t they just look at my face and then look at my Super Secure Homeland Security Specific NJ drivers license… with my face on it, and then scan the super secure embedded bar code on the back and say “Hey it’s You! Congratulations! Go home and have a nice day!”

Why do I have to go through the entire 6 point, prove who I am, like nobody but me knows, like you can’t see the face I’m wearing, that matches the drivers license I have, that I couldn’t have gotten, unless I had proven who I was, 4 years ago, so I could get the license that I’m holding in my hand now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Apparently My NJ Drivers License proves who I am to everyone except the NJ Motor Vehicles Department! And they gave it to me in the first place when I proved to them who I was! These guys are worse than my bankers. Who also pretend to NOT know who I am whenever I go there to get some of my own money, that I could only put there by proving who I was!

So off I go tomorrow to hopefully once again prove who I am to bureaucrats with a short term memory offering the promise of a long term ID card that they can’t ever make good on.

I’ve got IDs up the wazoo and still nobody knows the me I really am! Do I? Does anyone?

All I can say is… Thanks a lot Alzheimer bin-Laden!

 

#10: The Top Ten Rules That Children Learn in School That May Handicap Their Future: #10

25 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there are no rules.

The 10th rule that children learn in school that may handicap their future…

10.     Equality is for everyone. In the adult world there is no such word. There is always something that puts you ahead or sets you behind someone else. Equality is like the Unicorn. Have you ever seen it?

What the older adult realizes that children are just not yet aware of is that entering the adult world is like taking a journey into schizophrenia. There is no way that one can, or will ever be prepared for it.

Today, if a child were to draw target symbols over the faces of students in his or her yearbook that he did not like or wanted to see eliminated, that child would be recommended for the child study team and evaluated and possibly suspended from school and at the very least receive anger management training or counseling of one form or another. Once an adult, that same child has a potential career waiting for him or her in politics (Sarah Palin does this on her website). Guns are without a doubt a certain ticket to expulsion in schools but in the adult world at least half of the country will vehemently defend your right to own and even conceal that same weapon while you go about your daily business. And it is usually those same mandatory gun rights enthusiasts who are most likely to be against mandatory healthcare for everyone. In the adult world they are called conservatives but in the child’s world any teacher who would be in favor of letting you fight without sending you to the nurse afterwards would be considered a very liberal teacher indeed. Many adults love to remind children that freedom isn’t free and I would agree with those adults. Freedom is very expensive especially since war costs and defense budgets have grown to astronomical proportions yet many of those same adults who espouse increased defense spending are also the ones who are most likely to despise taxes and other government programs that promote and support and maintain freedom…like our public schools!

Every child in school has learned that freedom’s cost isn’t just in the fighting and in the dieing. It’s in the planning and the building and the maintaining and the schooling and the nurturing too. And it is very expensive. What’s wrong with paying for what you want and need? That’s another rule that children are taught by adults in schools. Be responsible. Take responsibility for your deeds and actions and own up to your mistakes. Pay your debts.

When children become adults they’re going to be expecting rules.  How they deal with their disappointments, and at what age they will have to, when they find a grown-up world without rules will be the measure by which their own happiness will be determined.

If we want to fix the problems that we are facing in our public schools and within our communities we adults are going to have to start (and remain) living by the rules that we teach our children. We need to start listening to our own lectures with the attention and seriousness that we demand from our children when we tell them to sit still and listen to us. We need to plan the lessons that we are teaching to our children in our homes every day and we need to stick to those plans and follow them through to completion with patience and diligence, kindness and love.

 I’m hopeful that we can be successful and I am positive that one sure way to start making these necessary and important changes in our lives is by remembering to make contact with our loved ones each and every day, look one another square in the eyes, adult and child alike, then reach out and together support and modernize and improve our public schools…and then continue the lessons into and throughout adulthood!

#9: The Top Ten Rules That Children Learn in School That May Handicap Their Future: #9

24 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there are no rules.

The 9th rule that children learn in school that may handicap their future…

9.     Judge not. In the adult world everything and everyone is judged. Trust me on this one. And for many, pre-judging is just a faster way to get there!  

Rule #10?…and the finale, To be continued…

#8: The Top Ten Rules That Children Learn in School That May Handicap Their Future: #8

23 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there are no rules.

The 8th rule that children learn in school that may handicap their future…

8.      Winning isn’t everything. It’s how you play the game. If you have ever watched children play then you know that the idea of cheating in order to win is something that occurs to them almost faster than you can say, “Play ball!” and so children will hear this phrase from adults on an almost non stop basis but in the adult world winning means you are a winner, period. If you are going to worry about how you play the game, then see rules # 5 and #7.

Rule #9?…To be continued…

#7: The Top Ten Rules That Children Learn in School That May Handicap Their Future: #7

22 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there are no rules.

The 7th rule that children learn in school that may handicap their future…

7.  Don’t cheat. Cheating in the adult world goes hand in hand with lying and almost everyone who has everything has cheated in some way to get it. (or had someone do it for them) Cheating in the adult world is not half as bad as getting caught at cheating is. Getting caught is the sin that makes an adult a loser… not the cheating.

Rule #8?…To be continued…

#6: The Top Ten Rules That Children Learn in School That May Handicap Their Future: #6

21 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there are no rules.

The 6th rule that children learn in school that may handicap their future…

6.  Don’t be wasteful. Waste is a business in the adult world. In fact it’s several businesses, but most importantly waste is where the money is and how much you waste will demonstrate your measure of wealth and success to others. Throwing things out, including people is also a way for adults to demonstrate how much power they have.

Rule #7?…To be continued…

#5: The Top Ten Rules That Children Learn in School That May Handicap Their Future: #5

20 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there are no rules.

The 5th rule that children learn in school that may handicap their future…

5. Play fair and follow the rules. Habitually following rules in the adult world will show other adults that you take no initiative and can be easily led. Playing fair will be a handicap that will also demonstrate that you are non-competitive. Rules are for the unimaginative followers of the world who like to remain “Inside the box.”

Rule #6?…To be continued…

#4: The Top Ten Rules That Children Learn in School That May Handicap Their Future: #4

19 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there are no rules.

The 4th rule that children learn in school that may handicap their future…

4Share. Share or suggest sharing in the adult world and you’ll quickly be shunned as a socialist or labeled non-assertive and someone with no business sense. The child who takes all of the blocks or crayons for his own use during his first day of kindergarten is chastised and admonished for his inability to share with others and is then reminded that all of the children need to use the blocks and crayons and that is why he can’t have them all for himself. That would be selfish… but once little Johnny grows up to be an adult he can have all of the blocks or buildings or money or resources that he wants while others go without anything and that’s fine with everyone else because that’s called being wealthy. And wealth means being rich while others are poor, being over fed while others go hungry, having many homes while many are homeless. It means having more than you need and NOT sharing. When you are an adult you CAN have all of the blocks even if that means not letting anyone else have any…and more often than not others will love, respect and fawn over you for this behavior not shun you like they were taught to do in Kindergarten.

Rule #5?…To be continued…

#3: The Top Ten Rules That Children Learn in School That May Handicap Their Future: #3

18 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there are no rules.

The 3rd rule that children learn in school that may handicap their future…

3.      Be polite/do not insult others. “It’s not nice to hurt another person’s feelings!” Is a common refrain heard when an adult speaks to a child but when grown- ups join the business world or a political debate or negotiating session in the adult world, insults will become their finely crafted tools of the trade. Most will see your politeness as an invitation to help themselves to whatever it is that you have that they want.

Rule #4?…To be continued…

The Top 10 rules that children learn in school that may handicap their future…#1

16 Nov

If you’re a parent or adult or teacher or perhaps all three. then you have probably already realized what it is that will wear kids out, and their chance for a bright and happy future,  faster than just simply growing older, just like it has most probably worn you out. The rules! And the fact that in adulthood where kids are going and where you’ve been, there really are no rules.

This is what will make young adults’ heads spin until they lose their sense of balance: The realization that everything they were taught in schools with regards to morality, personal behavior and fair play by adults, will go right out the window as soon as they turn 18. For most the realization will be a slow and grinding process that will wear them down over time, and for others the cold reality of the adult world will hit them as suddenly and as hard as an angry officer’s night stick.

Children are led to believe that they need to grow up and act like adults because adults have manners and adults learn to play fair and adults obey the rules and adults keep promises and children are always getting in trouble with adults for not doing those things. However, once a child enters the adult world he or she eventually discovers that it was all just a scam because the adults who are quickest to shed those childhood rules are quite often the quickest to reach success and power aren’t they? In fact, the fastest to unlearn the rules will be the quickest to win the game! Here’s what I mean by the rules that children learn in schools and are expecting to be in effect and enforced once they become adults:

Rule #1

Don’t hit back/ No fighting! Hitting back is expected in the adult world. If you don’t hit back you’ll be labeled a coward or non-assertive or a wimp. Taking one’s revenge is revered in the adult world and considered a must activity when a person is wronged. The adult who admonishes the child for hitting back saying, “I don’t care who started it. Hitting is wrong!”  Will never find himself repeating these words to adults who get into fights. In fact governments of every belief system and philosophy, great and small, all over the world and throughout time get involved in devastating wars simply because someone hit first and they had to hit back.

Rule #2?…To be continued…

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